Wasn’t it like just June like five seconds ago? And now Halloween is this weekend, before you know it Thanksgiving, New Years, and somewhere in between I TURN 21 FINALLY. Not that you would know from all the wine on my Instagram stories, but I digress…
The point is, I’m taking a step in getting ahead on my New Year’s Resolutions this year – with a twist. I like to think of these as anti-resolutions. Stuff I refuse to buy into, complete, or finish. Things I can do without in 2017, that I’m pretty sure you can too.
10 Things I Want To Fail At
This should go without saying for anyone who’s read anything I’ve ever published on here, but I am just too excited to fail at dieting. I’ve been failing at it for most of 2016, but have also been in the process of getting rid of certain, pesky “food rules” one by one. It’s taken me awhile to be 100% comfortable at failing at dieting, but that’s okay because real recovery takes time.
2). Being Flaky
Admittedly, I’m not the most social person. I love meeting new people, but it’s the getting-to-know-you part that I find myself backing out of. So in 2017 I want to make more plans, stick to them, and go out more! Hopefully in failing at being flaky I’ll be able to step outside my comfort zone a bit.
3). Trying To Do It All
I know I’m not alone in this. You rack up 10-15 really important items on your to-do list, followed by 5-7 semi important items, and then a few extras. But in the process of thinking of and listing all those items, you get overwhelmed and end up in bed or on the floor or something. I’m guilty! So it’s only fitting I become open to failing at doing it all. In 2017 I’ll do my best to be happy with just doing a lot of it, the good stuff, and sometimes the not-so-good-but-necessary stuff.
4). Justifying My “No”s
So there’s for sure a more eloquent way to say that, but this one goes in line with my blog post about how the only kind of sex women should be having, is sex they want to have. But this whole bad habit (most of) us women have of sugar coating our rejections and shying away from situations we don’t want to be apart of – it has to stop. Whether it’s a shift I just don’t want to pick up at work, a guy I don’t want a second date with, or whatever – I’m done justifying “no”.
5). Online Shopping
Have y’all heard of Poshmark? It’s been the death of my bank account lately. There are so many beautiful, designer bags and wallets and things WITH tags, basically new, and for a fraction of the price. But I’ve been way too successful at finding those deals lately, and both me (and my paychecks) wouldn’t mind failing at it for awhile.
6). Veggie Guilting
I do this thing where about once a week I berate myself for no longer eating bowls of veggies every day. Or like….any veggies really. Don’t get me wrong I’ll enjoy the occasional salad with lots of add ins and dressing, some peas in my chicken salad, or onions in my eggs.. but I don’t make a habit of cooking vegetables at home. I probably should do it, but it’s that should word that is causing all the guilt. If I want to make the decision to eat more vegetables, it’ll be for a positive reason, not because I’m giving myself anxiety over it.
7). Being Soft (all the time)
Look, I’ve accepted I’ll never be the “cool girl” with the tattoos, who listens to bands that aren’t on the top 40, and doesn’t show emotion. But that doesn’t mean I have to be quite so soft and sweet all the time. Especially in a professional environment. Especially with people who aren’t so soft and sweet with me. I’m learning to stand up for myself more and more, and remembering that my job as a woman is not to be soft, sweet, and pretty all the time.
8). Stepping On The Scale
If I fail to step on the scale at all in 2017 (save for the doctor’s office) then that would be fine with me. As I talk about in my recovery story, my weight has stabilized after I began gaining and intuitive eating allowed me to maintain where my body was happiest and healthiest. Sure I may fluctuate throughout the day a few pounds depending on water, bloat, fullness, etc. But my weight doesn’t change much. And I don’t need to control numbers in my life any longer. That’s something I’ll gladly fail at.
9). Washing My Hair
I’ve read all the science, and I see you ladies with the beautiful manes on Instagram swearing by it. But I have this bad habit of washing my hair every day. I swear it drives me crazy if I go more than two without washing it. Maybe I can ease up a bit on that next year and fail at having squeaky clean locks every day – for the better health and shine of my ‘do.
10). Limiting Myself To One Path
I’m the kind of person who gets super tunnel visioned, and goes full speed ahead at one thing at a time. I’d like to fail at that just a bit, pump the breaks a little, and try to focus on trying several new things. Creating new memories, finding new experiences, and giving my all to them. Some won’t be for me. But some might just turn into something magical. Being passionate about something is great (and following that passion productively is even better) but I can’t allow my passion for my blog, or even for all you lovelies!, keep me from exploring new opportunities at school, with friends, etc. Balance isn’t just about what’s on your plate, it’s about what’s all around you.
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