College should be a place where we learn to celebrate others’ differences and strengthen our self worth, not tear down both.
My College Acceptance Called Me Fat
Earlier this week, my good friend Kels brought a Seventeen article to my attention. The article, My College Acceptance Letter Called Me Fat, is incredibly emotional and I highly recommend you give it a quick read. This is my response to this brave young woman’s disturbing experience.
This story was submitted anonymously, but if the author is reading, here’s what I want you to know.
College Should Be About Growth, Not Loss
To the girl whose college acceptance called her fat,
I am so glad you chose to leave. I know you tried to stick it out, and that the year you spent there almost destroyed you. How dare they tell you that in order to be more of a dancer you had to exist in less space. Time that should have been spent learning how to dance with more heart was stolen because “you either talked about weight all the time or you starved yourself and suffered in silence.” I am so sorry that you felt like that was normal. I’m sorry they had you convinced. I’m so glad you were smarter than them, and chose better for yourself.
Grading On A Fat Shaming Scale
When you have to choose between dropping ten more pounds before Tuesday or failing the entire course, that’s child abuse. The “southern fat shaming prison” as you called it, and each instructor who encouraged this type of behavior deserves to be sued and have their job terminated, effective immediately. You are so strong for continuing to wake up every morning and try to be your best, despite their constant efforts to put you down. I can only imagine how it must have felt to be banned from performing, put on “weight probation”, because you weighed more than the girl with one eighth of your talent. How it must have felt to watch her dance her way to your deserved recognition. But know that even she didn’t come out on top, because on a fat shaming scale, the curve is never in your favor.
I’m So Proud Of You
Not just for surviving, but thriving. By dancing in a national Broadway tour you show those vile professors, and everyone else, that dancers come in all shapes and sizes. Talent cannot be measured by the circumference of your weight. Beauty standards are changing and more and more people want to see all bodies and skin tones etc represented. You inspire me, and I’m proud to have read your story.
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