I’m here to tell you it doesn’t matter how much you weigh, how many people you’ve slept with, or how much you paid for your jeans.

Numbers Nobody Cares About

1: The Number On The Scale

Maybe you’ve gained weight recently, or maybe you’ve lost weight. Don’t confuse someone noticing a change in your appearance for concern or consternation. And if you are met with less than kind reactions to your recent weight shift, remember that 99% of the time those comments are more about the speaker’s insecurity than you. Because people of value, people who love you, even people you’ve just gone on a first date with: they don’t care about the number of:

• pounds you weigh
• inches your waist is
• cup size

Your family will not love you any less when you weigh more. Your friends will not give a flying f*** when you need to go up a dress size. Your date will still find you incredibly sexy, because he/she is into you. And all that you are.

2: The Number Of People You’ve Had Sex With

I once dated a guy who didn’t want to sleep with me, because I had slept with other men. So maybe I should add an addendum to this one: nobody who you want to be sleeping with will care about the number of people you’ve had sex with before them. Its 2016, and that means women have as much right to explore their sexualities, however, whenever, and with as many whomevers as men do. Marrying the person you lost your virginity to? That’s awesome. Practicing safe sex with dozens of partners? That’s pretty awesome too. What’s not awesome is ever shaming another person for what (or who) they like in bed.

3: How Much Money You Make

I grew up blessed (not #blessed but actually very aware of my blessings) with always having food to eat, a place to sleep, and spending money for things here and there. I didn’t grow up rich or entitled. I’ve been friends with and more than friends with some incredibly wealthy people in my life, and let me tell you: it didn’t make them any more fun to be around, any better in bed (since we were already on sex in #2), or any less insecure for that matter. What I love in a person, and what people care about you for, is sincerity, humor, and a great attitude. Moreover, life experience matters. People putting themselves through school, working hard, and still smiling? That’s attractive. That’s respectable. That’s more than any number in your bank account.

Have you ever let a number make you feel less than? If you’re comfortable sharing, please tell your story below. Maybe it will remind someone that he or she is enough. So enough.

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