Personally, I love a good compliment. Heck, I pay them to myself on the regular because #selflove that’s why. But when it comes to receiving compliments from others, there’s one that puts all the rest to shame. If you tell a woman she’s pretty, she’ll smile. It’s feels nice, but there’s something way better you could be saying instead. Even if you up the ante and go with the sweeter “You’re beautiful” you’re missing out on the one compliment that will make your female friends, girlfriend, mom, or sister feel true pride. Cliché as it may be, complimenting a woman’s appearance really is just skin deep. The feel-good sensation is pretty fleeting. If you really want to make your girl feel special, tell her she’s strong. Skeptical? Read on to learn how many different ways there are to embody strength, and why the women in your life will love hearing you recognize theirs.
Good Compliments Are Easy, Great Compliments Are Personal
Like anything else, the best compliments come from the heart. So how do you play the strong card and really mean it? That’s easy. Every woman is stunningly strong in her own way. Most women are strong in more ways than fingers can count. To deliver a truly warm compliment, your job is to hone in on the way the special woman in your life is physically strong, mentally strong, emotionally strong, creatively strong, or fearlessly strong. Better yet, all of the above!
Slowly, Strongly, Surely
Recently, I received an awesome compliment towards an aspect of my strength that I’ve been working hard on developing. To understand what this compliment meant to me, you have to know that I’ve never been a girl capable of doing more than 3 consecutive push-ups and it has always bothered me. It wasn’t until trying a few workouts from my friend Beverley Cheng’s Sweat Series, which incorporates a ton of push-up variations into a 30-40 minute HIIT style workout, that I realized just how much I struggled with this one exercise. And then something pretty cool happened – each Sweat Series workout made me feel more determined to practice strengthening my push-ups and I began to look at each next workout as a fun challenge.
Long story short: I ended up doing the first round of the Sweat Series (4 weeks in total – I skipped beginner and went for intermediate) and fell in love with the quick bursts of cardio mixed with so many strength training moves I’d never encountered before. After 4 weeks, I wasn’t ready to stop feeling challenged, capable, and energized so I did the next 4 weeks of the advanced Sweat Series plan. In the eighth week, I was in the middle of a set of one of the hardest variations on push-ups, knocking them out like it was nothing, and a man at my gym smiles at me and says, “You must be ridiculously strong to do all those with perfect form!” And I thought to myself, you know what? I am.
Strength IS Beauty
It felt so amazing to hear someone recognize and praise something that I accomplished. Sweat Series workouts are tough, but the confidence I gained from feeling truly strong is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced with other workout programs. The satisfaction wasn’t about a change in how I looked or the before and after picture. It was about the strength. What does this mean for you? That the next time you pay a woman a compliment, remember that acknowledging her strength says more than flattering her physically. And remember, strength is not only physical! Want to make the woman you love feel amazing? Share how impressed you are with how mentally strong she’s been lately despite challenges in her life. Tell her you’re forever impressed with how creatively strong she is when she compes up with new ways to follow her passion. Strength is in the heart, so make your compliment come from yours. What could be sweeter, stronger, or more sincere? 🙂